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Partnership with Children

I turn 50 this year; my daughter turns 2.

I really have been blessed with the most delightful child, at a time in my life that I can truly appreciate her. I also had the misfortune of being raised by a particularly dominating father. Beatings and other forms of corporal punishment (including canings at school, which was considered normal practice back then) were a regular occurrence and father was not a particularly loving man. When he passed away a few years ago, none of his 6 children mourned him.

When my daughter was born (one of those completely unplanned significant life events) I vowed to treat her the exact opposite of how I was treated. So, while it has been easy to reject the dominator model, I've not always known what to do instead. The chapter on intimate relationships was a godsend, at just the right time, since she's entering what most parents affectionately refer to as "the terrible twos."

I found this phrase particularly helpful:

How are children treated in your family? Are they supposed to be “seen and not heard”? Are they given total free rein? Or are they taught to respect and honor both their own needs and those of others?

The second key takeaway was hugely helpful in the work I am doing to help female entrepreneurs understand the rise and fall of patriarchal societies throughout Western civilisation, and specifically what they can expect in the next 5-50 years. I particularly found this concept useful:

...the evolution of love, empathy, and caring. In reality, empathy and caring also play a crucial role in determining survival or extinction for many species.

It's my belief (shared by millions) that we have reached a tipping point, and that what humanity does in the next 10-20 years will determine whether we survive or not. While it's easy to get caught up in the symptoms of our malady (climate change, poverty, etc.), it was a timely reminder that empathy plays a crucial role in deterring survival or extinction.

All in all, a timely and transformative course, and I am eternally grateful for the serendipitous events that led to me joining. Highly recommended.

Michael Haupt

Cape Town, South Africa

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  • Michael:  What an interesting path that has led you to your current (and ambitious) undertakings--raising a daughter and working with female entrepreneurs in this way!  We are so glad that a colleague recommended the Power of Partnership course to you, and you decided to follow up on that recommendation.  It was a pleasure to work with you, and I will be watching your work for continued Partnership transformation around the globe, in part, due to your international efforts.  Wishing you all the best as you continue on your path...Best, Susan (Power of Partnership course co-facilitator)

  • Dear Michael,

    You are brave!  A 2-year-old at 50!  You're in for a wonderful experience.

    I appreciate the focus on respect and honor.  The tipping point has come and gone.  However, human ingenuity has a way of finding solutions in the 11th hour - and evolutionarily we're about one minute to midnight.

    I visited your country in 1999 for the Parliament of World Religions and learned so much from the experience.  I fell in love with Cape Town, and Table Mountain.  

    I also walked on the shards from the homes in District Six and was there for the planting of the Peace Pole on Robbin Island.  There is much in your recent history that points the way to a more just and equitable society.

    I am touched by your revelations of yourself and wish you a Caring and joyful Partnership with your daughter, and of course, your wife! 

    Blessings!

    Melissa

    • Brave or foolish - I'm still trying to decide ;) It was an unplanned pregnancy in an unmarried, casual relationship, so the opportunities for learning have been immense...

      Thank you so much for your supportive message - it means a ton.

      Love the idea of a Global Ethic, and I'm just putting the finishing touches to The 10 Commitments - an updated version of the very "dominating" 10 Commandments. Was fascinated by the concept of an etheric pulpit, but I'm not seeing anything when I visit that site. Looking forward to hearing more.

      Blessings to you in Boulder.

      Michael

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